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Let me be honest with you. Life feels like a chaotic storm sometimes, right? The endless emails, the buzzing phones, the deadlines that sneak up like ninjas. It’s exhausting. I’ve been there, drowning in the noise, craving a moment of peace. That’s when I stumbled upon meditation—not the woo-woo kind, but a simple, grounded practice that helped me reclaim my mind. And guess what? You can too. This 7-day meditation program is designed to guide you gently into mental clarity,

Foreword. A heated confrontation unfolds between a couple, highlighting the intensity and tension often present in narcissistic abuse dynamics. I have really kind of struggled accepting the word abuse. Using it in context of being a grown adult makes the word worse. When I use that word and I associate with myself, prior to ths, I can think of one person, one thing. And it still haunts and lives with me because I have no clue how to talk about it. The person who I talk about

Thanksgiving is more than a holiday filled with food and family gatherings. It offers a unique opportunity to pause and reflect on what we appreciate in life. This practice of gratitude can reshape how we view the world and ourselves. Research shows that gratitude activates brain regions linked to worry, helping us reframe negative thoughts into positive ones. By embracing gratitude, especially during Thanksgiving, we can build a mindset that supports emotional well-being and

This post is for the people who want to get healthy. It’s also for the people whose stability makes the rest of us want to get healthy. And — let’s be honest — it’s also for the toxic people still stalking my life who can’t get any access. If you’re going to lurk, you might as well learn something. Before we go deeper, set the vibe:Here’s a curated 90’s NYC hip-hop playlist I made to read this with — gritty, grounded, and perfect for focus:👉 Spotify Playlist: https://open.

Financial Predatory Behavior of Dating AppsThe rise of dating apps has transformed the landscape of modern romance, but it has also introduced various financial predatory behaviors that can lead to significant financial strain for users. Below are some key aspects of this issue:1. Subscription ModelsMany dating apps operate on a subscription model, where users are encouraged to pay for premium features. These features often promise better matches, increased visibility, or enh

Lighthouse When I was in high school, I was on the block for the 50 or 100 free and one of my teammates (Kevin Timony) yelled out that I looked like a bear. “The Bear!” lasted maybe for another meet or two, but I liked the nickname a lot. It never stuck, but the animal did. I fucking love them. Big, grumpy, and solitary but also kind and gentle in their own way. Bears do not make great pets nor blanket metaphors. There is always some asshole in the crowd that yells, “Why not

I hate the word healing. Nothing about it feels strong or manly. It makes me feel like that guy in the suburbs who panic-bought a handgun during the pandemic. I know I am cycling through the different stages of betrayal trauma, grief, and abuse. It’s one thing to tell a client they are going to bounce in and out of the different stages of Kübler-Ross; it’s another thing to fucking feel it yourself (Kübler-Ross & Kessler, 2005). I am totally out of denial — and it’s not a rive

I’ve struggled with the word "abuse." It feels heavy, especially when I think of myself as an adult. Associating that term with my experiences is daunting. Yet, there’s one person who embodies that darkness for me. Their actions haunt me, and I still grapple with how to articulate it. This person knew what they were doing. They even confided in their friends about it. It’s unsettling to think that some people might not recognize their abusive behavior. They want to keep it a

How noticing what’s working can literally rewire the same brain circuits that fuel worry By Matthew Sexton, LCSWFounder, Mental Wealth Solutions I’ve watched people rebuild their lives in both big, cinematic moments and small, almost invisible ones. Some moments come with fireworks—major decisions, breakthroughs, fresh starts. But more often, the transformation begins in silence. The quiet spark that changes everything isn’t willpower. It’s appreciation. Not denial. Not toxic

When I was a kid, my parents gave me a book of Greek mythology. The wild stories caught my attention, but it was the heroes who truly inspired me. I loved reading about people who faced significant challenges, learned from their mistakes, and emerged stronger. Everyone loves a comeback story. We all enjoy seeing a hero rise again. (Except maybe 1990s Knicks fans — Michael Jordan kind of ruined that for them.) Even if we can’t relate to Hercules or Jordan, we all know the feel

It feels strange to write about betrayal trauma on the anniversary of September 11th. Like almost every New Yorker, I carry stories of that day’s devastation and its long aftermath. As a young man in my early twenties, I lost friends and acquaintances, while also rediscovering old connections that grew into lasting friendships. Light can emerge from darkness; it happens every day in the cosmos above us. That day, and other events before and after it, shaped how I respond to t